What’s Your Story Morning Glory?

It would probably make your day if your boss, banker, partner, or spouse called you and told you how important you are. In fact, it would be great if more people around you would tell you today the things they would eventually say about you in eulogy. Occasionally, it happens. We do, however, have a voice constantly providing feedback on every aspect of our lives. “You really suck at your job,” it says in the morning. “Your nose is too honkin’ big,” it says when you look in the mirror. “You’re never going to be recognized for your effort,” it says after a long day. “You’re getting fat, old, and lazy,” it nags on the weekend. Our inner cheerleader is more of a Trojan horse. For an example of this see the Dove Real Beauty video: Our script is broken. A few weeks ago, Godin wrote a little post about having two lists. The…

Blemishes and Character

When I finished law school in 2006, my parents gave me a nice graduation gift. I penned many of the most important documents with it: wrote essays on the bar exam, signed my mortgage documents, and signed several partnership agreements. It has become a totem. A few weeks ago, I chipped base of the cap, and I’ve spent time since trying to think about how to repair it. I wanted to make it look “new” again. It can’t, however, be used consistently for eight years and remain in pristine condition (in my hands at least). When a car is dented or a guitar is scratched we say, “it gives them character.” I really haven’t given the expression much thought. More than anything else, I’ve thought it was a way to soften the irritation, but the saying is true of more than just objects. The little dings in our pride or…

We Have Today

Who can tell me what’s going to happen tomorrow? How about a week, a month, or a year from now? I’ve tried. I can’t. In fact, no one has ever been able to accurately predict all outcomes. Sure, a few have looked into their crystal balls and picked a few winners, but if the purveyors of doom were completely accurate, our species would have perished centuries ago. We do we have today. What stands on the other side of this very moment is defenseless against this moment. I believe that if we “make hay while the sun is shining” then we are rewarded–by God, by the Universe (as my friend Booth says), through our own mental alignment. We hope for tomorrow. Hope is powerful. It drives us today for the unseen, yet I’m suggesting that we live for today. Paradoxical I know: live in the now and dream for tomorrow….

What Are Your 3 Footers?

How many times were you asked what your New Year’s Resolutions were yesterday? Nearly every conversation that I had, “resolutions” came up. Of course, the answers were typically some variation of losing weight, exercising more, and drinking less. De ja vu. At the most basic level, these resolutions are 27 foot goals. Recently, I was in a seminar where the speaker talked about 3, 6, 9, 12, 15, 18, 21,24,27 foot goals. He facilitated an exercise where people were split into groups for each distance. They were then lined up facing a horseshoe pit and given 6 horseshoes. You can imagine the results. The group at 3 feet “ringed” every horseshoe. The group at 6 feet ringed most of theirs, but as you can imagine the group at 27 feet didn’t ring any. When we say we are going to “lose weight” or “get into shape” the behavioral change is so…

When I die, I want to Leave More than a Content Void

This morning I read some sad news on Facebook. Mary McKnight passed away on Christmas Eve. I had so many questions: What happened? Had she been sick? Was this sudden and shocking to her fiancé, Mr. Hatfield? Then, it led into a wholly different line of questions: How old was Mary? Did she have any kids? Where did she live? What did she do for a living? As I started to put the pieces together, I remember that I begin interacting with Mary in 2008. At the time, she was a leading authority on internet marketing of real estate. We exchanged a few tweets and connected on Facebook, LinkedIn and obviously Twitter, but I quickly realized that I didn’t really know her as more than a provider of great content. As Internet marketers, we measure relationships by subscribers, clicks, views, follows, fans, opens, and any a host of other objective…

Enforcing Rules vs. Sharing Aspirations

When I was a kid, I remember one random Saturday morning when my dad set out to teach us all a lesson. He had a “family huddle,” which was few and far between, and he told us that our spending was “out of control.” As a man of generosity and lavish spending for novelty, his pep talk would have been best applied to the mirror, but it was good for him “get those ideas out.” In hand, he held up several 3″ x 5″ cards with a list of rules. Posted throughout the house, they read: 1. No impulsive spending. 2. No major purchases for six months. 3. Eat fewer than 3-4 meals out per week. …and a 2 or 3 more similarly themed rules. Now, who knows what financial statement or event spurred this about face, but he was ready to right financial freedom with “his rules.” A few…

What Matters? And What Makes a Difference?

This morning, I was thinking about the story of Narcissus who caught sight of his reflection on the surface of the sea and was so infatuated that he slowly fell in and drowned while chasing the “beauty” of himself. I realize sometimes how deep and insatiable the abyss inside of us can be. We feed ourselves through self-congratulation and pride, but as much as we feed the monster, it is never satisfied.   With predictability, I can say every time I turn around to give myself a little pat on the back, wham, the world around me reminds me all too quickly that I’m just a tiny speck flying around a tiny rock in the great expanse of the universe. To battle pride, some people can engage in somber humility. I just don’t have that discipline, but I can laugh at myself, regularly. Imagine Narcissus throwing a rock in the…

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